Jennifer Battaglino’s blog

Please come visit our specialized blog dedicated only to tinnitus... 

 The Harwood Center Tinnitus Blog

I would love read your comments and answer your questions so you or your loved ones can get your lives back.

Jennifer Battaglino

Welcome Back Kevin... 

www.theharwoodcenter.com

There was a smart request to post the wordpress tinnitus blog link here...

Hopefully this will be easier then you will be able to go directly over in the future from google reader.

Thanks everyone for your patience...

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Hi Everyone

  Just wanted to leave one more message here that I am using my tinnitus blog for class purposes.  So you can go straight there instead of coming here first.  I don't want to create extra time spent for anyone.

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Once I figure out how to make it part of my website, I will let you know...

THANK YOU! :-)

Jen

www.theharwoodcenter.com

Hello Everyone,

Well I'm back and have decided to start a new blog dedicated to tinnitus and finding relief.  So head on over to jenniferbattaglino.wordpress.com for my first intro...

This blog will continue to discuss everything else from fears and phobias to child and adolescent issues.

I am looking forward to your comments, questions, and feedback!

My Best

Jennifer Battaglino

  It's the new year and the same old resolution...no more procrastinating.  Let's get the job done and achieve what we set out to do.  The problem is we are entering a new year with the same old set of imprints and programming we had all the previous years we wanted to make a change.  So how do we effect positive change?  How do we get out of the old mind set?

   First you have to be honest with yourself and take a good hard look at what you think of the the people you would group in with what your change would bring.  For example, if you want to be more successful in your career, what do you think of those high powered people?  Positive or negative...  If you want to make more money, what do you think of people who are well off?  Again, is it positive or negative...  If you want to stay home more with the family?  You get the idea.  Those judgments or ideas could make or break you.  If your view is negative, then subconsciously something will hold you back and never quite let you completely achieve what you hope to do.  You may partially get there but then you "save" yourself from being one of "those people" but not getting there completely, a.k.a. self-sabotage.  We do it all the time.  Sometimes it's because the familiar or status quo is safer than taking the risk.  

   It works for almost everyone who commits to the process...I have seen it happen too many times.

    Hypnosis allows the possibility of change and lets you get to that subconscious conclusion that has held you back in the past so YOU CAN CHANGE.  The first step in breaking a habit is becoming aware of what that habit is.  the brain is malleable, and that means you can reprogram the negatives into positives...

HAPPY NEW YEAR

Happy Thanksgiving to all the wonderful people I have interacted with for so many weeks and who i hope to meet one day. 

This is my favorite holiday because it's a chance to get together, without presents, EAT (very important), and appreciate all that we have. 

Have a good one and I'll be back in action tomorrow!

Jennifer

A little update on my last post which was way too long ago...

     Sitting in my office, the teenager I recently spoke of tells me that he just needs to find a new school...start over and everything would be fine.  I said, "What about the fact that wherever you go you have to take yourself with you?"

He looked puzzled and obviously wanted to know what I meant by my comment.  I explained that although, he did not deserve to be ostricized by his peers at school, picked on during the bus ride home, and left alone at the lunch table...what role did he play in his alienation.  At first he was offended but also said that he had to learn to control himself.  Impulse control.  "Johnny", let's call him, lives only in the moment and if it occurs to him to do something like poke another student or tease a friend, then he does it.  Only later when he finds himself alone, does he regret it. 

So if we could just buy Johnny a minute, some seconds, then he might have enough time to change his mind so that if he does go to a new school, he has a chance to keep the initial friendships he makes before history repeats itself.

Question:  Do you think he should go to another school?

PS...  Everyone involved agrees BUT his parents...

Now to my blogging rounds.

      I was very frustrated today and this is why...

      I saw a child who carries the burden of his family. All the imperfections, all the let downs, disappointments are his, like a gift from the rest of the family.  If anything is wrong, it must be his fault.  If he tries harder, it's not good enough.  So how can he win?  The problem is If he does get well then everyone else has to start looking at themselves and they don't want to do that.  So where is this kid's chance? 

    So the stories goes that this boys tries.  He stays after school and goes in early.  He is clinically depressed but asks friends for sleepovers to show that he is complying and trying to earn his parents' trust back.  The "friends" are always busy...well at least that is what they tell him.  So as he struggles while the parents are inconvenienced by his behavior.  Why can't he be like their other two perfect children?  Maybe because he doesn't think he has a chance so why try anymore?

     Hmmm, he doesn't think he has a chance because that's the message that keeps getting sent from Mom and Dad, the two most influential people in his life.  The school staff tells them they see a difference and I tell them the same.  Mom and Dad keep commenting that it's not true and he should be doing more if there was a real change.  So he remains miserable while going through the motions because he wants his freedom or what little he had before this all started.  But what incentive does this child have to tell me or his parents or the school that he is still miserable when he understands that will only disappoint and prolong the hostility in his house and in his life? 

     I have to help him before the message gets downloaded 100%...and the program is complete.  What he has going for him is that he's smart and knows can articulate that his parents are a major part of the problem.  He is figuring it out and finding a new support group of friends and realizes that there are some adults that believe in him, who see he is a good kid and trying his best.  I think that gives him strength and hope.

     Stay tuned and I'll let you know how it turns out...

Thanks for letting me vent.

Is it possible to put too much thought into something?  What is the criteria for determining if you have given something too much thought.  Perhaps when you don't come to a decision or you don't move on something or DO something.

What's stopping you?  What's stopping me?  I actually have decided to think out loud today as I feel I can put too much thought into what I am going to write about and how much of an impact it will have.  I have basically told myself to lighten up today... but it did make me think (I can't help it). 

It made me think about my clients and how fear and anxiety feeds off of thought, that is how much time we spend on focusing on the fear and building the anxiety.  One of the worst feelings is anticipatory anxiety or the fear of "what will happen next".  Too many times I have heard someone suffering from tinnitus tell me that they can't go to that restaurant because it "might" cause an increase, can't go to their kid's soccer game...too loud and all that cheering..., or visit with friends that are in town, looking forward to seeing them, and then deciding that they just can't go out because they are worried the car noise will exacerbate the tinnitus.   

What this does is isolate and remove what joy someone has from a difficult time in their life.  The "What if?"  is still scarier than the noise in their head that sounds like a fire alarm.  But if all this is left is that noise, then where do you think you end up?  Yup, depressed and contemplating suicide possibly because you feel there is nothing left.  So let's make sure we don't give up the things that bring us some relief or give us a break while we work on those things that we want to change.